I know what you’re thinking. Self-control is not a tough thing. Only you need determination. Measure the strength of the desire.
You can’t manage what you don’t measure. The best way to measure self-control is to measure the strength of the desire. This is the secret to self-control: give up control. I’ve been struggling with self-control for a long time.
I would resolve to do one thing for a month, and then after a few days, I’d stop doing it. I would start a project, only to abandon it. I would try to eat healthier, only to resume my old, unhealthy habits. I realized lately that the problem wasn’t with me. I was telling myself to do the things that I knew I should do.
But I wasn’t giving myself the accountability to actually do it.
I know what you’re thinking. Self-control is not a tough thing. Only you need determination. “I don’t want to give up control.” You want to be in control of your own life. But the secret to self-control is giving up control.
What does that mean? It means giving up the idea that you can control everything in your life. It means giving up the idea that you have to rely on willpower to make everything happen. It’s a popular misconception that people who are successful in their endeavors have somehow achieved self-control, but the opposite is true. Self-control is an illusion, and the more you try to control your life, the more in control you become of your life. Here’s the trick: give up control. “The secret to self-control is to give up control.” This quote may sound a little confusing, but it is actually simple. You just have to let go of the things you think you should be doing. Don’t force a habit. Try to adjust to your bad habit and take control. Don’t force yourself to do something that you don’t want to do. You have to make the decision to do something new and start with self-control.